Flowers and cakes

Just a quick update now cos I’ve been busy and I’m leaving England for Singapore tomorrow!

Actually, that’s all I need to say but since I’m already here, I suppose I could say a few more things.

It’s Valentine’s Day today. I’ve never really been partial to the commercialism of the whole event, not because I think it’s a scam (which it kind of is) but because I think it makes people lazy in relationships, thinking that they’ve got this one day to excessively shower their loved ones with love, and then the rest of the year they can take it easy, take the relationship for granted.

Regardless, I am not above appreciating some Valentine’s Day flowers.




Piers got me tulips instead of roses because he said he couldn’t find roses in colours that I like (white and champagne pink) and he wasn’t overly sure of the exact shade of pink I like, anyway, cos to him, all pinks look the same.

Which is fine because I actually prefer tulips to roses.

Flowers are relatively cheap in England and we can get pretty tulips all year round so Piers was happy to buy me a bunch every week to pretty up our apartment at the beginning of our relationship.

Eventually, though, I told him to stop because I got tired of maintaining them, having to replenish or change the water every so often. I started leaving them to wilt for weeks before I could be arsed to dump them and give the mouldy vase a good clean.

You just can’t please a girl.

But, seriously, since I’m leaving tomorrow, it means Piers has to take care of these tulips and dispose of them when they die, so that’s perfect for me. I am very pleased!


A few days ago, I baked this fresh cream chocolate cake because I felt like eating cake.

It was a bit of a disaster.




It started off being an 8-inch cake and ended up being a 5.5-inch one because I left it in the oven too long and the sides got rock hard so I had to cut them off. Because of that, the sides looked ugly so I decided to cover everything with fresh cream, only I didn’t have enough cream so everything just looked uneven.

If you look on the inside, you can see a hole in the middle filled up with cream:




That was me gouging a hole in the middle of the cake to check if the middle was edible.

It was barely edible, tasting like stale cake because it was so overcooked.

Piers was excited when he saw it, coming home from work. He thought it was his Valentine’s Day cake because of the heart on the top. But that was just me trying to make the cake look less ugly but even then I didn’t do a great job of it.

We each had a small slice for tea and he said, “Wow, that is really delicious!”

And then he said, “Hang on, I need to have a sip of tea. It’s stuck in my throat, need to wash it down with a drink.”

On the bright side, the cream was quite tasty.


Well, I can’t wait to be back in Singapore where I can buy anything I want to eat, without having to try and make it myself, and poisoning my boyfriend in the bargain.

And now I’m off to spend Valentine’s Day with the boyfriend sans poison. We are eating out today.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you all. Hope you have or had a great one, depending on when you read this.

I feel sorry for guys on Valentine’s Day

I know Valentine’s Day is over but I still want to talk about it.

Talk about flogging a dead horse. Haha. But there’s a funny story I want to share, so I’m writing a whole article around it.

To be honest, I don’t care much for Valentine’s Day.

Of course, I would be really happy and appreciative if a guy pampered me silly on that day (unless he’s some stranger or a scary stalker), but I wouldn’t mind if I didn’t get anything, either.

I’m the kind of person who doesn’t place much significance on special days. I do celebrate them but only because celebrations are fun. But I don’t really care about birthdays, anniversaries, or anything like that.

I mean, if my boyfriend forgets my birthday, or our anniversary, or Valentine’s Day, or if he doesn’t give me presents on those days, I don’t care. Seriously. What matters to me more is that he’s a nice, decent partner all year round.

I guess I was more excited about Valentine’s Days and birthdays when I was much younger, but the novelty has died for me. Now, I find it a hassle to get all worked up around a day.

Why not just enjoy every day and celebrate as and when you feel like it, instead of allowing other people to tell you when to celebrate?

I also believe in mutual effort. I don’t think guys should do all the work in preparing for a celebration, unless he’s courting the girl, in which case he should do all the work.

That goes for the other way round, too. If a girl wants to court a guy, then she should do all the work.

But when a couple gets together, both parties should put in equal effort to pamper each other.

In fact, I feel sorry for guys on Valentine’s Day because it seems like society has placed some kind of a one-sided responsibility on them, compelling them to live up to some mysterious standard that no one can really explain, but everyone swears by.

If it’s an equal relationship, guys shouldn’t be the only ones buying the roses and planning the surprises, unless they truly enjoy being the initiater, in which case, good for the couple!

When thinking back about my past Valentine’s Days, nothing really comes up as particularly memorable. I had to think very hard to dredge up a few vague pieces of memories.

  1. One year, a boyfriend specially ordered baby blue roses for me because I was in love with that colour at the time.
  2. A few times, I received flowers/chocolates/teddy bears in the office, once from a secret admirer whose identity is still a mystery today, and got teased by colleagues.
  3. Once, I helped a friend sell roses on Valentine’s Day and made $300 in commission. A few guys bought roses from me and gave them back to me on the spot. That was sweet!
  4. I planned a simple treasure hunt for a guy once so he had to work at finding his presents, but I can’t remember the details anymore.

That’s all!

Most years, I spend Valentine’s Day having dinner in a fast food restaurant, at my request. We exchange gifts and then we go home. Sometimes we don’t exchange gifts. We just eat and go home. Sometimes we catch a movie.

Okay, now the story!

Three years ago, this guy from my gaming guild asked me out on Valentine’s Day. I had only known him for three months through the game and met him only twice before, both times in groups.

It was on Valentine’s Day itself (I was single that time) and we were both online in the game. He asked if I wanted to have dinner with him that night. I said okay.

He brought me to Shima Japanese Restaurant, where the Valentine’s Day dinner was $120 per person.

Later, when we both started dating seriously, he confessed something which struck me as very funny.

“You know what?” he said.


“I was really stressed that day when you accepted my Valentine’s Day invitation.”


“I really didn’t expect you to be free or even to want to go out with me.”

“Then why did you ask?”

“Just to try, I guess. When you said yes, I started panicking.”


“How was I going to find a restaurant at that last minute??! All the good places would have been fully booked weeks ago already!”

“Well, you did find something.”

“I MSN’ed my friend: ‘Help!!!!! She said yes!! And I have nowhere to bring her!!’”

“Haha. What did he say?”

“He suggested I bring you to my club.”


“But you rejected that place.”

“Who ask you to send me the menu and ask whether I like it or not? I told you the truth mah. The Valentine’s Day menu looked weird.”

“I scrambled around the whole afternoon looking for a place. Lucky Shima still got table. But then, you know what?”


“I was sweating the whole night, cos I was jobless and broke and had no money to pay for dinner.”

“Haha! Serves you right. Broke still ask a girl out.”

“I didn’t expect you to say yes lah!”

Anyway, the date went swimmingly well. He bought me a bunch of roses, the meal was nice and we didn’t end up being arrested for free-loading, thanks to this technology called credit card.

Later, we hung out at a coffeeshop for drinks and chatted till some ungodly hour.

Four years later now, I’m still with this silly billy.

I would usually allow a guy to bring me to expensive places during our first dates to impress me because I enjoy being pampered.

But if we got together after that, I’d put up a resistance against too much extravagant pamperage because I find equal joy in little everyday things like cuddling in bed and watching TV together.

(And I feel money can be better spent buying games and gadgets.)

So, for the past three Valentine’s Day after that first one, we have been “celebrating” Valentine’s Days and my birthdays in fast food joints. And sometimes we don’t exchange presents and I don’t really care because we give each other gifts throughout the year and we go on fun, romantic trips when schedule and budget allow. It doesn’t have to be on special dates.

Well, you already know how I spent Valentine’s Day this year.

Of course, having said all that, I also believe it doesn’t hurt to acknowledge a day even though I don’t need it. I know there are people for whom Valentine’s Day is meaningful and I do respect that. Good for them.

And, I guess, as much as I don’t believe in special days, I celebrate them because celebrations are fun and it’s fun to have fun.

Just don’t be too hard on the guys because love goes both ways.

Pretending to celebrate Valentine’s Day

I haven’t really celebrated Valentine’s Day in a long while.

I mean, sure, we go out for dinner (fast food) and, in some years, we even buy each other gifts. But then, we go out for dinner and buy each other gifts all the time, with or without Valentine’s Day,

Sometimes, though, you feel obliged to conform to society. People like to ask you how you spent your Valentine’s Day and it’s good to have something to say. So what I did was to make all my friends watch Dark Knuts: Welcome to Avenue Quantum, the much talked-about laugh-a-minute live parody show.

I booked seven tickets for the February 14th evening show.

For the day, I had originally planned to stay home either working or playing games, but then I suddenly remembered that I had a photo shoot in a few days’ time and badly needed a hair cut.

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Gift ideas round the globe from vPOST


Thanks to my hectic schedule, I’m always leaving present-shopping till too late! Well, I checked out vPOST‘s Valentine’s Day promotion and am reminded that there are only four days left till Valentine’s Day.


Actually, the Goonfather doesn’t expect Valentine’s Day presents from me, but I like buying him stuff.

The problem is, there always isn’t time. I had left Christmas shopping till too late last year and ended up buying a tin of cookies for him on Christmas Day itself.

(I was in Cold Storage with my friends, shopping for last-minute groceries for our Christmas dinner. While we were queueing up to pay for our items, the guys sneaked out to look at girls outside the mall. I chose that moment to grab the giant tin and actually managed to smuggle it back, gift-wrap it and hide it among the presents under our Christmas tree without the Goonfather even noticing, even though he was with us the whole time!)


So, I’ve decided to shop online this time (and all future times – birthday, anniversary, mother’s day, father’s day, teacher’s day, children’s day… um, everything lah) because I doubt I’ll ever have time to go hunting all over Singapore for presents.

Shopping online is a good idea. I found a few things I could get for the Goonfather which I would never have found if I’d randomly gone to some generic shopping mall.

The first one is a Mazda RX-7.


Well, okay, it’s a remote control car but it drifts!

The Goonfather loves remote control cars. And drifting. But his remote control cars can’t drift and it’s too expensive to drift his real car, so he only does it in video games.

Now there’s this! Check out the video. It’s very amazing!!

There are six models to choose from. I chose the RX-7 because that’s my favourite car in Initial D (the anime).

You can buy this item here.

Next item. A missile launcher. It’s so geeky I think all guys will love it.

I love the product description.

The latest from the Department of Desktop Warfare

The office arms race continues, and we think this newest escalation could very well lead to mutually assured destruction on all sides! With the ability to connect (and simultaneously control) an almost unlimited number of missile launchers (well, only limited by your system memory and number of USB ports), the USB Laser Guided Missile Launcher will empower you to unleash something akin to total office annihilation. Not only will you achieve strength with the size of your battery of missiles, they will be accurate too. The built-in laser missile aiming system will allow you to aim and fire your weapons with close to pinpoint accuracy! Just point the red laser dot at your target and slowly squeeze your mouse trigger finger.

I can imagine the Goonfather terrorising all his colleagues with this.

ThinkGeek has tons of cool items you can buy your guy (or for geeky girls… like me)!

There’s also this item he’s been eyeing for a long time. The Gene Simmons Axe Guitar (compatible with Rock Band and Guitar Hero games).

Is that the coolest guitar ever or what?

(Ashamedly, I don’t even know who the heck Gene Simmons is. But who cares. The guitar look nice can already.)

Well, I can’t really decide. Maybe I’ll get everything cos they’re all so cool. Of course, I’m using vPOST for my online shopping cos there’s a Valentine’s Day promotion offering 20% off shipping charges till Feb 28, 2009! Yay!

What I like about vPOST is that it allows you to buy items from USA, UK and Japanese websites (over 350,000 of them) even if those sites do not ship to Singapore. That’s really handy, I think.

You will get USA, UK and Japanese shipping addresses to use for your order so that vPOST can receive the items on your behalf and ship it to Singapore within five to eight working days (upon payment of shipping charges).

(By the way, this service is also available for Malaysia, Thailand, Australia and India users, limited to USA shipping addresses.)

((And vPOST shipping charges are at least 20% cheaper than other international shipping providers.))


Only three simple steps are required to use vPOST:

I suppose that doesn’t tell you very much. Haha. But you can read the fully detailed guide here.

vPOST also provides a vCONCIERGE service which helps you buy stuff. It’s great for people who don’t have credit cards, or for times when a retailer doesn’t accept your Singapore-issued credit card.

Check out this geeky guy explaining the service:

Well, thank goodness for online shopping. Then again, one of the hazards is that you will find so much great stuff without much effort that you’ll start inventing reasons to buy presents for people.

Or maybe that’s just me.

One of my favourite sites to shop at is JBOX, which has all sorts of crazy Japanese things.

For example, how about this ninja sword ear cleaner?

LOL. The Japanese come up with the craziest stuff.

Speaking of which, if you didn’t watch I Survived a Japanese Game Show, you MUST watch it because the Japanese thought up the most hilarious ways to abuse a bunch of Americans and it’s so entertaining! YouTube has the entire season.

JBOX also has lots of irresistable Hello Kitty merchandise which will cute you to death.

I want all these!

By the way, here’s one tip to avoid paying GST on your online purchases:

You will be charged GST only if your package exceeds S$400. So, if you’re feeling rich and buying a ton of stuff from the same retailer, just split up your purchases so that no single parcel is worth more than S$400. (Don’t forget to work out the currency exchange.)

Well, happy shopping! Don’t forget to buy something for me! =P


Valentine’s Day? Don’t have leh…

Spent Valentine’s Night with the Goonfather spring cleaning the room and then having a late dinner of seafood mee goreng at the nearby coffeeshop.

Drove to nearby Shop N Save to buy multi-purpose cloth (but Shop N Save didn’t have them) and then back home to continue spring cleaning.

I feel happy that, for once in my life, I didn’t succumb to the nonsense of celebrating Valentine’s Day, which is really just a special day for florists and gift shops.

I’m sure the Goonfather feels happy for his wallet, too.

Anyway, I can’t be bothered with V Day this year, what with CNY so near and so much spring cleaning and shopping NOT DONE YET.

Nevertheless, I hope you all had a great Valentine’s Day and didn’t spend too much money. If you did, well, I hope you’re happy, anyway!

*hugs and kisses*