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7 Comments » I don’t like to talk about sex.
I mean, it’s a very private matter. And I do try to be socially responsible in my blogs because I know there are young people reading my blog.
Unfortunately, I was tasked to talk about sex for Star Blog this week.
The topic: “SEX! What does this word trigger off in you?”
I stressed over it for a day and finally decided to just let it all out.
Why can I never get a straight answer from a man? We’re planning a trip to Guernsey (an island) dead early tomorrow morning, so I need to know what time we have to leave so I can set my alarm.
Me: What time do we have to leave home?
Piers: No earlier than an hour before the time we have to be there – which is an hour before we sail (6 am).
Took me 11 minutes of questioning, during which time I got more riddles, before I received the answer: 4 am.
Piers “invented” a really delicious Asian snack combo: Prawn crackers with hoisin sauce! So proud of him!
I also found this awesome lemongrass-flavoured prawn crackers at Tesco. From Netherlands, but makers were Indoneisan settlers. Tastes so great when you dip into hoisin sauce (sparingly)!
Yeah I know my photos are missing from my blog header. Looks very funny, doesn’t it?
Nanny Wen (aka Buggy Wen aka Davienne) says it reminds her of Harry Potter’s moving picture people.
Guess my photos are taking a break. They’ve gone into hiding because it’s been raining a lot in England and the weather forecast says it’s going to hail tomorrow.
IN THE MIDDLE OF SUMMER!
Crazy or not.
I thought I’d be in discomfort for a year because I was finding it impossible to get used to Invisalign in my mouth. But just 11 days into it, I hardly feel it anymore.
Was playing on my iPad before bed last night when I suddenly couldn’t feel plastic in my mouth and for one horrifying moment, thought that I had forgotten to put my aligners back on after dinner, which was ages ago.
Turned out it’s just my mouth has started to adapt.
Quote of the day
Me: I want a pet duckling!
Piers: LOL why!!!
Me: Cos they’re so cute.
Piers: All baby things are cute! Except babies.
A transport provider in the UK just sent me an e-mail asking me to take part in an online survey to help improve services.
So I go there and answer two questions (age and last time I used the service) and they say:
“Thank you for your time. Unfortunately, you do not qualify for the survey as this time around we are looking to survey our more senior customers (over 60) only.”
WTF fail.
Was googling the difference between biscuits and cookies and got linked to a Yahoo! Answers page. This guy’s answer made me LOL.
“The difference between the biscuit and the cookie is the Atlantic.
Plus, American biscuit more like a savory scone
Plus English biscuit is an American cookie.
Plus English or American cookie is in your computer to do stuff that no one really understands.”
Being too ambitious (or greedy). Two heaped bowls of ricotta and spinach tortelloni in bolognese sauce, with six sausages and three baby zucchinis thrown into the mix. A roll of garlic bread and a bottle of wine. Delicious!
Yay I got white tulips! My favouritest flowers. :)
England has the most beautiful flowers. Tulips and roses in white with pale pink. Gerberas in strawberry milk pink. Makes me happy!
Just read in detail about foot binding in ancient China. I always thought they just wrapped up the feet during infancy to stop them from growing.
But, no! They wait till the girl is 4-7 years old, then break her toes and arch bones so that the toes can curl under the sole. Without anaesthesia.
After wrapping the monstrous creation tightly, the girl is then forced to walk on her broken feet so her weight can help crush them into shape. The feet are crushed and rebound daily for like two years! WTF is wrong with people?!
Hello Qiaoyun,
I read your article.
Well, I just skimmed through the headings. Must say I’m rather disturbed that for you, sex has so many (and only) negative connotations.
Not a single positive word at all..
Whatever happened to thoughts like love, partner, life, ecstasy, beauty, romance, family etc?
Perhaps you have had only bad experiences in the past, I hope that will change for you in the future.
I wish you all the best.
Thanks for your well wishes. :) Well, maybe you should read at least the first few paragraphs and last few paragraphs lah. This was the way I decided to write my article. If I had to include the good things, the article would become twice as long… too long. :P
Hi. It’s been a long time. :)
Read your article and I must say I kinda agree with the comments made by Julen. You are free to your own opinion, of course. Important thing is, we agree to disagree.
You may blame sex for whatever evils they lead to but look at it this way:-
Sex also eases a lot of tensions. Physically, our body and mind needs it to be more relaxed. Otherwise, it wouldn’t function properly. There would be too much frustration and all. If sex didn’t exist, the world would probably be a far worse and more dangerous place to live in.
I’m not saying people should be promiscuous though. That’s not what I mean at all.
PS: Are you still drumming? How good are you now?
…the worst thing about your article is the truth in your words.
Glad to read above you have positive views also..even though you chose not to write those ^^
I do also think its a private subject..so congrats on your efforts.
Al Sayf: Hello! Thanks for dropping by once again! Well, of course I agree that there’s the good side to sex. But let me put it this way. For one group of people, sex is great. For another group of people who are sexually abused, sex is horrible. It depends on which camp you’re looking from.
I’m still drumming, although I’m no good at all. I hardly have time to practise, so for the past half a year, I have been literally only drumming 100 minutes a month. :P
LazySuzan: Thank you for dropping by and for your kind words! Nice comments like yours douse a million flames, so thanks for the encouragement! :)
I think you almost got it in the end. The problem is not sex. The problem is life.
I am not a Buddhist but I believe Buddha got it right when he taught that life is suffering and the cause of suffering is desire.
Call it what you will. Hunger. Lust. Desire. Ambition. When uncontrolled, it consumes us and consumes those around us.
Saying you can’t think positively about sex is like saying you can’t think positively about eating. If there is no such thing as eating there would be no hunger. There would be no starvation. There would be no fighting over food.
Many of the points you raised are not a problem with sex it itself, but people’s reaction to it. Social stigma is not caused by sex, but by how people react to it. If there was no social stigma, blackmail would not be possible.
Finally I would like to leave you with this quote.
“Appetite, an universal wolf, so doubly seconded with will and power must make perforce a universal prey, and at last eat of himself.” – Troilus and Cressida Act I. Scene III.
Richmond: Thank you for your comment. Wise words. :)