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	<title>Comments on: Do you give up your seat for the needy?</title>
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	<pubDate>Tue, 02 Dec 2008 03:24:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: Qiaoyun</title>
		<link>http://sheylara.com/2008/03/28/do-you-give-up-your-seat-for-the-needy/#comment-61040</link>
		<dc:creator>Qiaoyun</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 16:48:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;b&gt;modchip:&lt;/b&gt; Ok. Just wondering how you define "kid", that's all. :P

&lt;b&gt;shin:&lt;/b&gt; I don't really advertise the fact that I have a Twitter widget. I guess you can treat it as sort of an Easter egg bonus for more observant people. :P</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>modchip:</b> Ok. Just wondering how you define &#8220;kid&#8221;, that&#8217;s all. :P</p>
<p><b>shin:</b> I don&#8217;t really advertise the fact that I have a Twitter widget. I guess you can treat it as sort of an Easter egg bonus for more observant people. :P</p>
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		<title>By: shin</title>
		<link>http://sheylara.com/2008/03/28/do-you-give-up-your-seat-for-the-needy/#comment-60319</link>
		<dc:creator>shin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 07:59:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>honestly i dont usually notice your twitter updates. in fact, never, lest it's mentioned in the blog entry. it's like drowned out on your sidebar leh.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>honestly i dont usually notice your twitter updates. in fact, never, lest it&#8217;s mentioned in the blog entry. it&#8217;s like drowned out on your sidebar leh.</p>
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		<title>By: modchip</title>
		<link>http://sheylara.com/2008/03/28/do-you-give-up-your-seat-for-the-needy/#comment-58405</link>
		<dc:creator>modchip</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Apr 2008 07:35:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I mean, as long as they look &#60;like&#62; a kid, eheheh. :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I mean, as long as they look &lt;like&gt; a kid, eheheh. :D</p>
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		<title>By: modchip</title>
		<link>http://sheylara.com/2008/03/28/do-you-give-up-your-seat-for-the-needy/#comment-58401</link>
		<dc:creator>modchip</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Apr 2008 07:31:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;So what’s the age range of the kids you give your seats to?&lt;/i&gt;

As long as they look as a kid and they are not "rude", then the seat is theirs. :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>So what’s the age range of the kids you give your seats to?</i></p>
<p>As long as they look as a kid and they are not &#8220;rude&#8221;, then the seat is theirs. :D</p>
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		<title>By: Qiaoyun</title>
		<link>http://sheylara.com/2008/03/28/do-you-give-up-your-seat-for-the-needy/#comment-56790</link>
		<dc:creator>Qiaoyun</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Apr 2008 17:08:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;b&gt;rn:&lt;/b&gt; That's a really interesting scenario. I haven't actually encountered that myself!

&lt;b&gt;Pingping:&lt;/b&gt; Haha. Yeah, if info is lacking, I guess we have to go by gut feel. But my instincts aren't always good. Sigh.

&lt;b&gt;Sicarii:&lt;/b&gt; Lol, your story of the snatched seat is so common that it's amazing. I mean, I've heard so many of those cases and I can't believe that there are so many rude Singaporeans acting this way!

Your eye contact method is great. But I think it's something most Singaporeans aren't comfortable with. We're not used to making eye contact with strangers because we were raised to be wary of strangers! :P

&lt;b&gt;JayWalk:&lt;/b&gt; Haha, that's very true. I sometimes also just go stand one corner instead of try to fight for seats with people. But sometimes I need the seat myself!! Cos my legs are tired from walking around in high heels all day, or I just want to play my DS comfortably. Haha. It's a bit hard to play DS when one hand has to hold on to a railing. :P But if I'm reading a book, standing is fine cos I can hold a book with one hand.

&lt;b&gt;chris:&lt;/b&gt; Yeah! Exactly what I'm thinking! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one thinking that way!

&lt;b&gt;Hui Hui aka Tara:&lt;/b&gt; OMG that's horrible. He really sat on the bus steps?? I wonder why the bus driver didn't do anything about it. I thought people are not allowed to sit on the steps. 

Yeah, being more observant is a great skill to have. I think some people are more observant than others, and they can tell better who needs a seat. Maybe I'm not one of them. Haha.

&lt;b&gt;shin:&lt;/b&gt; Cool, that's a good thing to look out for. Great suggestion! :)

&lt;b&gt;lulu:&lt;/b&gt; Heh, ok, I get your point. It's ok to be thickskin if the motivation is to help someone. :) 

&lt;b&gt;precious:&lt;/b&gt; You do have a point there, about how an old aunty wearing Scholl might need a seat less than a young female in Jimmy Choos. But that's what makes it so difficult to determine because there are so many factors involved in such cases. 

Actually, I think it just boils down to a simple matter of how you feel about the situation at the particular moment and acting on instinct. 

Problem is many times my instincts fail me. lol..

&lt;b&gt;Mike M:&lt;/b&gt; Yep, thanks for your comment! :)

&lt;b&gt;desmond!!:&lt;/b&gt; Wah. Ok, if you ever see me on the train carrying a lot of stuff, you will give your seat to me ah? ;) ;) I really hate carrying loads of stuff on a crowded train. It's so inconvenient and heavy! 

&lt;b&gt;Mother:&lt;/b&gt; You do have a point that everyone has a right to keep the seat they got first. But then people will still judge you if you don't give your seat to a "needier-looking" person, especially if you're a young man! Heheh.

&lt;b&gt;modchip:&lt;/b&gt; Hahaha. Fair enough. So what's the age range of the kids you give your seats to?

&lt;b&gt;Derrick:&lt;/b&gt; Well, there's only "harm" in giving up your seat if it offends someone in the process! But I'll admit that that probably won't happen too often. Give you seat should be damn happy already, complain for what, right? :P

&lt;b&gt;Monster:&lt;/b&gt; Hahaha. You know, I think if they have the ability to sprint to the bus, they should surely have the ability to stand in it. So, good call! 

&lt;b&gt;Ashtar83:&lt;/b&gt; I wish you had been on the train once when I really needed a seat! I was on the way to work in the morning and suddenly I felt really dizzy and nauseous and felt like I was going to faint, and I was like clutching onto the pole and almost keeling over and my face was all pale and white. 

But no one offered me any help at all!!! Hahaha. Stupid people!

&lt;b&gt;ice-angel:&lt;/b&gt; HAhaahaha! That's a great thought, to include women on heels and carrying bulky items. But I think the men will just complain. Heh. 

&lt;b&gt;Justyn:&lt;/b&gt; lol. I hope the same thing, too. And I guess, judging from all the responses here, overall, it's better to err on the side of being helpful. </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>rn:</b> That&#8217;s a really interesting scenario. I haven&#8217;t actually encountered that myself!</p>
<p><b>Pingping:</b> Haha. Yeah, if info is lacking, I guess we have to go by gut feel. But my instincts aren&#8217;t always good. Sigh.</p>
<p><b>Sicarii:</b> Lol, your story of the snatched seat is so common that it&#8217;s amazing. I mean, I&#8217;ve heard so many of those cases and I can&#8217;t believe that there are so many rude Singaporeans acting this way!</p>
<p>Your eye contact method is great. But I think it&#8217;s something most Singaporeans aren&#8217;t comfortable with. We&#8217;re not used to making eye contact with strangers because we were raised to be wary of strangers! :P</p>
<p><b>JayWalk:</b> Haha, that&#8217;s very true. I sometimes also just go stand one corner instead of try to fight for seats with people. But sometimes I need the seat myself!! Cos my legs are tired from walking around in high heels all day, or I just want to play my DS comfortably. Haha. It&#8217;s a bit hard to play DS when one hand has to hold on to a railing. :P But if I&#8217;m reading a book, standing is fine cos I can hold a book with one hand.</p>
<p><b>chris:</b> Yeah! Exactly what I&#8217;m thinking! I&#8217;m glad to know I&#8217;m not the only one thinking that way!</p>
<p><b>Hui Hui aka Tara:</b> OMG that&#8217;s horrible. He really sat on the bus steps?? I wonder why the bus driver didn&#8217;t do anything about it. I thought people are not allowed to sit on the steps. </p>
<p>Yeah, being more observant is a great skill to have. I think some people are more observant than others, and they can tell better who needs a seat. Maybe I&#8217;m not one of them. Haha.</p>
<p><b>shin:</b> Cool, that&#8217;s a good thing to look out for. Great suggestion! :)</p>
<p><b>lulu:</b> Heh, ok, I get your point. It&#8217;s ok to be thickskin if the motivation is to help someone. :) </p>
<p><b>precious:</b> You do have a point there, about how an old aunty wearing Scholl might need a seat less than a young female in Jimmy Choos. But that&#8217;s what makes it so difficult to determine because there are so many factors involved in such cases. </p>
<p>Actually, I think it just boils down to a simple matter of how you feel about the situation at the particular moment and acting on instinct. </p>
<p>Problem is many times my instincts fail me. lol..</p>
<p><b>Mike M:</b> Yep, thanks for your comment! :)</p>
<p><b>desmond!!:</b> Wah. Ok, if you ever see me on the train carrying a lot of stuff, you will give your seat to me ah? ;) ;) I really hate carrying loads of stuff on a crowded train. It&#8217;s so inconvenient and heavy! </p>
<p><b>Mother:</b> You do have a point that everyone has a right to keep the seat they got first. But then people will still judge you if you don&#8217;t give your seat to a &#8220;needier-looking&#8221; person, especially if you&#8217;re a young man! Heheh.</p>
<p><b>modchip:</b> Hahaha. Fair enough. So what&#8217;s the age range of the kids you give your seats to?</p>
<p><b>Derrick:</b> Well, there&#8217;s only &#8220;harm&#8221; in giving up your seat if it offends someone in the process! But I&#8217;ll admit that that probably won&#8217;t happen too often. Give you seat should be damn happy already, complain for what, right? :P</p>
<p><b>Monster:</b> Hahaha. You know, I think if they have the ability to sprint to the bus, they should surely have the ability to stand in it. So, good call! </p>
<p><b>Ashtar83:</b> I wish you had been on the train once when I really needed a seat! I was on the way to work in the morning and suddenly I felt really dizzy and nauseous and felt like I was going to faint, and I was like clutching onto the pole and almost keeling over and my face was all pale and white. </p>
<p>But no one offered me any help at all!!! Hahaha. Stupid people!</p>
<p><b>ice-angel:</b> HAhaahaha! That&#8217;s a great thought, to include women on heels and carrying bulky items. But I think the men will just complain. Heh. </p>
<p><b>Justyn:</b> lol. I hope the same thing, too. And I guess, judging from all the responses here, overall, it&#8217;s better to err on the side of being helpful.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Apr 2008 07:56:18 +0000</pubDate>
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